I am 32 and dating a Lady who is a student and she is 25. I live alone in Lagos but she lives with her parents in Lagos too. She is schooling in another location.
We have been dating now for 3 years, We love each other so much. She begged to stay without sex until we get married because she is a Virgin. I reluctantly agreed to respect her wishes because I love her.
I used to believe that I am the only person dating her until recently. She told me that I now have a rival. She says that the guy is her course mate in school and she is in her final year now. She told me that the guy has been her close friend since her first year. She said the guy just asked her out recently, although she told me she said no to him and that she already has someone she is dating.
At first I told her to break up with the guy,.but later I realise that she likes the guy because she won't stop talking about him even when we should be talking about us (me and her,).
One thing I can't understand is that she tells me she doesn't love him but anytime I tell her to break up with him she would tell that it's not easy for her to just break up with him because she doesn't want to hurt him. She is in school now.
Recently she ask me if I would allow her to spend the night with another guy? I said yes, and she asked if I said yes because I know there would be no sex,? Then I said yes. She also told me that the guy has been pressuring her for sex.
Please, as an adult, why would she want to spend the night with a guy that has been pressuring her for sex and there would be no sex?
My mind is telling me to break up with her but I don't want to because I still love her. Have i lost her or not? Please, I am worried. I don't know what to do.